Category Archives: Marriage

One Week of No TV

March 22, 2017

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Confession: I’m addicted to TV.

At the end of 2016, Jamie and I admitted to each other that we watch too much TV. It was hard to say out loud because we like TV and we know that after admitting something out loud comes hard work and accountability. “I don’t want to give this up” was my first thought, and boy did that prove to me that something needed to change.

We’ve become accustomed to a lifestyle that involves eating all of our meals in front of the TV, keeping the TV on at all times (I am also addicted to background noise), and staying up too late watching “just one more episode.” I get way too personally invested in TV shows, to the point where I believe that I’m apart of the family or group of people. Crazy, I know.

Over the past 6 months, I’ve been reading The Celebration of Discipline with a sweet friend and last month I read this paragraph below, and it stopped me in my tracks.

“Reject anything that is producing an addition in you. Learn to distinguish between a real psychological need, like cheerful surroundings, and an addition. If you have become addicted to television, by all means sell your set or give it away. Simplicity is freedom, not slavery. Refuse to be a slave to anything but God.”

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I want to create a foundation for our family that is full of eye contact, trying new things and laughing together, instead of watching the next best TV show like a zombie. I want our future children to understand the importance of being together, not just watching TV at night because it’s easy, but truly being together as a family. I want to cultivate a foundation of intentionality, not laziness or conforming to the ways of the world.

If I’m honest, our addiction to TV is hindering our marriage. It’s hindering us from being intentional with one another, giving our full attention and asking meaningful questions. It’s hindering us from being intimate with one another. I refuse to be a slave to anything that is going to put a block in our marriage, so we decided right then and there that there needed to be a change. We wouldn’t go crazy and “sell our set or give it away” but instead we would choose little by little progress. We committed to one week each month with NO tv.

Here’s what we learned from our first week of no TV:
– We got in bed earlier and spent time reading before going to sleep
– We were more willing and excited to spend time with people that we love
– We had way more fun together (dance parties, card games, bed jumping and evening walks)
– We ate dinner at our dining room table with no distractions

I don’t ever want to stop growing. I want to create moments of growth in us as individuals and opportunities to stretch our marriage to do things that are hard and don’t feel normal to the world. We’re currently in our March week of no tv and it has been wonderful. Tonight we’re planning to go to our local nursery to pick out some plants for our backyard!

Married Mountain Weekend 2017

March 6, 2017

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This was our third annual married mountain weekend (see the first one here), something that we made a tradition our first year of marriage. In the beginning it was just three couples and Bokeh. We had all been married that year and were looking for community, a place to openly talk about what was hard, was was joyful and what it looked like to serve our spouse and honor The Lord in our marriage. As the years went on, we continued to add couples that had got married. Last year we added Blair and Quinn, and this year we added Rachael and Brentice. What a blessing this weekend has been for our marriage. Our lives continue to change – we’ve now added babies and more fur babies to our families, but this weekend has stayed the same.

The only way that it has stayed this way over time is because we have fought hard for it. We don’t all live in the same cities or states even, so seeing each other is a fight. A fight against other plans and excuses. A fight of distance and time and vulnerability, but it’s so worth it. To have these married friends who fight to know and love us deeply has been one of the greatest gifts of our marriage.

P.S. I just love these real images. Pajamas, bed head, no makeup and glasses. It doesn’t get much better than that!

Film Processing: Indie Film Lab

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First Anniversary Session

February 9, 2017

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When Jamie and I got married, we decided that moving forward we weren’t going to give each other gifts for any holiday. Instead we were going to have our pictures professionally taken and go on an awesome vacation together once a year to celebrate all the holidays. No gifts? I know it might sound crazy, but it’s been such a blessing in our marriage. We don’t have to worry about sneaking around or buying things that we don’t actually need. We get to put that money towards an experience that we’ll remember forever and pictures that will forever remind us of our first year of marriage.

To celebrate one year of marriage, I knew that I wanted to do something fun, so I brought together a couple of my favorite local vendors and put together a small little shoot that embodied the celebration of one year of marriage. We popped and enjoyed a bottle of champagne from our wedding day, cut a small “top tier” wedding cake, read our vows to each other and frolicked around on a beautiful farm with Bokeh by our side. I’m so thankful that the Graham and Samantha were there to capture each moment so perfectly. We’ll cherish these pictures for the rest of our lives!

Photography: Graham Terhune Photography
Film Processing: Richard Photo Lab
Tulle Skirt: BHLDN
Florals: Erin McLean Events
Cake: Sugar Euphoria
Calligraphy: Samantha Terhune

Truly honored to have these images included in the Winter/Spring 2017 issue of Trendy Bride Magazine!

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A Letter to Myself

February 24, 2016

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Two years ago, I was at Making Things Happen and I stood up in front of 100+ people and shared my deepest fear. I was a couple rows from the front, and had what I was going to say and then I stood up and it hit me. What I had planned was true, and to be honest I don’t even remember what it was, but what came on was vulnerable and honest and necessary. “I’m Callie Pitts, and I’m afraid to be a wife.” I was engaged to be married in a couple months, renovating a house, planning a wedding, and planning a life with Jamie. What was holding me back from all of these things was the fear that had just slapped me in the face, and if it wasn’t for MTH I’m not sure if I ever would have said that out loud and addressed it head on, but boy am I thankful that I did.

A couple of days ago, I was cleaning out a closet in our home, and found the letter that I wrote to myself on the second day of MTH and I fell slowly to the ground reading it. Almost two years into marriage, and I still need to hear these words that I wrote to myself, and maybe you need to hear them too.

Beloved Callie,
Remember that time when your life felt like a whirlwind, like you couldn’t squeeze anything else in it? Remember when you were anxious, doubtful, and troubled? I can’t promise you that all of these feelings have vanished now but I can tell you that you are not enough, that Jesus Christ is ENOUGH and all you need. I can tell you that you are capable, strong, confident, and a servant of the Lord and HIS greater purpose. FOLLOW HIM. At this point, you will be a wife to Jamie Davis and I want to remind you that you will never be enough for him, only Jesus will. Be encouraged that you are not perfect but a perfect Savior died for YOU! Give grace, love deeply, live like there is no tomorrow, and serve others – giving all the glory to the King of Kings! Kiss your husband and thank him for loving you despite your flaws. And never forget that you are capable of MAKING ANYTHING HAPPEN!
Love,
Yourself

Breathe life into your deepest fear. I promise you it won’t always be easy, but if your goal is sanctification, I promise you, it will be worth it. The Lord will draw you near, comfort you, and point in the right direction. And to be completely honest, I still struggle with the fear of being a wife (more to come about this) but I have accepted that I am not enough, and that I never will be enough. The good news is that there is someone else who will always be enough, and I want to firmly fix my eyes on Him. 

One Year

June 17, 2015

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How can it already be one year? I was telling a friend the other day that it seems like this year went by so fast, however I can’t remember what my life looked like before I was married to Jamie, so it seems like that was a lifetime ago. Marriage is beautiful in that kind of way and I am thankful. However, this year hasn’t been perfect, but it has been full of grace, and that is so much more beautiful that perfection. We don’t know all the answers, and are only in the beginning stages of our marriage, but so far, we can confidently say that chasing perfection, will always fail you. What will never fail you is sharing the grace that has been poured out on us by Jesus with each other. As ironic as it seems, grace is our perfect answer to marriage.

“But He gives us more GRACE.”
James 4:6b

Trust me when I say, this year has not been easy. There have been tears, anger, thankfulness, bitterness, great joy, sadness, lots of laughter, arguments, dance parties and so much growth. Each day with Jamie, I have learned something new, have been challenged, and encouraged to cling to Jesus over all.

To be honest, this was not the way that we had planned celebrating our first anniversary, but it was exactly what we needed; a day at home paired with fun activities! We went to church, picked strawberries, went on a long bike ride, prepared a romantic dinner on our deck and ate off our wedding china, ate the top tear of our frozen wedding cake, and watched our wedding video. But most importantly, we were together, and that’s all we needed.

Here’s to many more years, my love!

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